Dec 17 2006
Tips on Getting More J-Girls!
A big part of picking up chicks is the phenomenon of ¡Èstate¡É. Commonly after going out to a club or bar or other event, on the street or train on the way home you find it much easier to approach chicks and get into conversations. Their responses are also better. That¡Çs because your mental state is in a place where it normally isn¡Çt, because you have primed it by having a good time and warming up on other chicks beforehand. Hence you find you can get girls you previously couldn’t get, or can approach them in situations you previously couldn’t handle.
Remember: When you are in a different mental state, you are a different person. You may be much more or much less attractive than when in other states. You produce different responses in the people you interact with. Reality is different for you when you are in a different state. Yet your mental state can change at any the time. The slightest occurrence can influence your state from care-free to sullen to talkative to sexual to super-confident to confused to pessimistic to ambivalent and back to care-free.
Corollary: When a girl is in a different mental state, she is a different person. She will be interested in fucking or totally against it, depending on her state of mind. Your primary job is to control her state to whichever state is most useful for the attainment of your goals. If she is nervous that is just a mental state; get her laughing hard and she will be in a different state, hence her reactions to anything you do or suggest will change completely.
Learn how to control your mental state and girls¡Ç mental states and you¡Çll have one of the keys to explosive success with women.
With that theory under our belts, let¡Çs take a look at how this applies to a typical situation that comes up between foreign men and Japanese women in Japan.
Common Mistake #1: Staying in ¡Èfun mode¡É for too long.
I¡Çve seen it countless times. Some gaijin are out drinking and somehow join with a group of Japanese girls at a nearby table. So far so good! They get the girls laughing, having fun trying to speak each other’s languages, comparing hand sizes, taking pictures, cycling through the guys’ repertoire of little physical tricks or games that have worked in the past. Everyone is in "fun mode".
Unfortunately, the guys have little concept of how things are going to go from here. They just think that everyone having fun together is bound to lead to something good later on somehow. They are afraid to take it to the next step for fear of damaging the "fun" atmosphere, so they keep it up for 20, 40, 60 minutes, maybe even several hours. By then the situation either gets cut off by circumstances or reaches a partial or complete stall, followed by the inevitable nosedive. Even if they manage to get the contact info, the girls are definitely not going to want to repeat such an uncomfortable experience.
Solution: Move out of "fun mode¡É within 1 to 4 minutes.
States should be kept in a good flow or else they will stagnate. ¡ÈFun mode" simply breaks the ice and provides a good pretense for necessary logistical actions like moving tables together. From there some level of seriousness has to be there so the woman cannot rule you out as a sexual encounter. Remnants of fun mode can always be revisited whenever the girls’ states need to be adjusted, but only at those times.
Why not use as much humor as possible? Because the surest path to the lay is the fastest path to the lay. Efficiency is king. Never move backwards with a woman unless absolutely necessary. Yes, gentlemen, if a chick is horny, making her laugh is a big step backwards. Humor is one of the most powerful tools with women, but using it indiscriminately will steal the trophy from your grasp just as you go to reach for it. Know when to use it and when not to.
Analyzing a bit further, why is keeping the "fun" interaction going for too long bad? How is this interpreted by the girl? All experience hath shewn that girls interpret this ¡Èextended fun mode¡É as the "inability to pull the trigger". It marks you as a guy who she cannot take seriously, or in particular as a guy who doesn’t have what takes to bring her home and give her a good fucking. It doesn¡Çt get any worse than this!
So what to do after ¡Èfun mode¡É? A good follow-up state for "fun mode" is the state of fascination. It’s a natural progression that a Japanese person will want to know more about you, where you are from, etc. Rather than being annoyed by this interrogation process, you can use it to your advantage. The basic state of a person asking a bunch of questions tends toward fascination, and you can reinforce this by how your answer. The worse your Japanese and/or her English is, the longer this questioning may continue and the more mysterious you will look in her eyes. This is a good thing. If your Japanese is better, you can still preserve that sense of mystery by spinning off into tangents in your answers, and in one of those tangents you can tell a little story that moves her into the next state you want her in, such as admiration.
Instead of 20 minutes of ¡Èfun mode¡É, now you have had a few short minutes of fun and humor with some nice incidental ¡Èsilly¡É touching, followed by building a state of fascination in her, naturally touching her on the arm or shoulder with good eye contact when something funny or exciting comes up, and finally you have her listening to a story that builds admiration in her and lets you lay on heavier eye contact and touching, all in the first 20 minutes. She has probably never been this close or felt this much of a connection with someone within 20 minutes of meeting them, especially if it¡Çs her first time interacting with a foreigner. Now you are in a very good position to move her state toward higher attraction, into horniness and wanting to kiss, and then to then kiss her. After that, master the logistics and you could have her home in the same night, or a high chance for lay on the second meet. More on all that stuff later!
¡ÆTil then,
Happy hunting!
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