Jan 24 2007
8 Non-obvious Ways to Get Laid More
1) Know why you want and deserve hot women.
If you don’t understand why you want it, you’ll lack the intensity of purpose needed to succeed.
If you don’t believe you deserve it, you’ll either (a) stop yourself at the critical moment or (b) succeed but become an asshole filled with all sorts of lingering guilt, ultimately failing. Get these issues sorted first!
2) Be bold.
In this game windows of opportunity open for 1/2 a second and then are gone forever. If you hesitate to pull the trigger you’re done, son! You’ll have the edge over 95% of other guys just by being fearless when you see an opporunity to advance.
3) Touch her more.
Follow the 2PAC model for touching (none of these are optional!):
2 is for "two eyes". Make solid eye contact with her when you touch her - don’t look at your hand!
P is for "progressive". Start with social - firm one-second touch on the upper arm. Move to progressively more and more intimate touching: upper arm, shoulder, upper back, lower back, knees, lower thighs, upper thighs… Get it? Make it firmer and longer as you go, little by little.
A is for "anchored". At first only touch her when she is laughing or obviously in the midst of experiencing some pleasure. Time it carefully so that she only associates your touch with positive feelings. Then later she will notice she feels good whenever you touch her and she won’t know why. You’ve "anchored" your touch to good feelings. This technique is subtle but insanely effective.
C is for "casual". Do it from the beginning to show that that is just the kind of person you are. You touch people. You are a sexual being. Do it likes it’s nothing, following the above "2", "P" and "A", and she will accept it.
4) Tell passionate stories.
Find traits that you already have that chicks would want in a guy and tell stories that passionately demonstrate these aspects of yourself.
If you want to show her you are popular with women, don’t ever tell her you are popular but instead tell a story about your students high-fiving you in the hall and mischievious kids grabbing your member (the point seems to be that it’s funny and embarassing, but the subtext is you are popular with kids, hence she’ll infer that you are popular in general).
Don’t tell her you love animals, but instead tell a story of how a stray cat followed you home one day and you just couldn’t bear leaving it alone so you spent your last dimes to take care of it. Tell stories that show your passions - bring her into your world.
5) Don’t convince; persuade by changing her mood.
Want to her come to your favorite place but she’s refusing? Make her laugh, tell a story, do anything you can to get her in a different mood, and five minutes later she’ll come.
6) Strike while the iron is hot
No matter how hard a sell a girl might seem, she could get horny at any time, for any number of reasons, and when you least expect it. If she gets in the mood to go with you, take the chance now! There are no benefits to waiting.
7) Control logistics and have a plan.
Think about all the details of how things will lead to sex; plan accordingly.
Meet her at a place near your house. Maybe make it so she has to pass by your house to get home. If other people are around figure out how to isolate her from them. Like offer to drive everyone home but choose a course that leaves her in the car last.
On foot, tell her you just remembered you need to buy some water, come out of the store with some heavy jugs, and obviously you’ll need to make a "quick" stop at your place to drop those heavy jugs off….ah, but then you’re like, "as long as you’re here you might as well take a look at my place" - make sense?
Be ready.
Keep your place prepared. Have condoms ready. Every relevant aspect of your life should be tuned as if you were definitely going to have sex with a girl tonight - every night you go out! Most guys aren’t believing it’s really going to happen, which becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy when their unpreparedness ruins a would-be lay.
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I Can agree with #1 thru #4! When your married and things get to a place either one of ever thought you would be facing, you feel just as lost as the other but I don’t think anyone can see that. The desire ends up in frustration and that takes a person to anger and it goes both ways when it is a marriage or devoted relationship. Love, Passion and Sex will never get satisfied when anger is the emotion that shows. COMMUNICATION when you are in a marriage or committed realtionship is #1 you have that, if your a friend you will be a lover and will not have to worry about getting laid!
Good stuff. The incidental walking by your place is pretty hard to do in Tokyo, don’tcha think.
As regards the stories, I’ve been working really hard to convert some stories to Japanese and connote passion in Japanese but find it hard to hold attention with them.
Great belief structure. Must… internalize….!
Keep up the great content.
Amanojack, I always like reading your stuff!
Do you have an email so people can contact you?
by the way here is my email.
please send a mail, thanks!
Women have for years enjoyed the benefits of Cosmo articles telling them the secrets of seduction. It’s refreshing to see men sharing their secrets. The technique you describe is known as speed seduction, has been covered well but in very small groups (google: speed seduction), and IT WORKS. Women want to be seduced, most men don’t do seduction because it’s inauthentic etc., but ANY MAN CAN GET LAID if he just follows the rules. In short, women want to be dominated (I’m not talking about S&M) and they HATE HATE HATE submissiveness in men. So don’t be a pussy, act confident even if you’re not, remember that success will come (and you’ll get better) the more you practice, have a telemarketer backbone and relax when you get rejected. In short, be an actor–act out the guy women are born to want (what they call ‘a real man’). Women are great–I love women–but they are NO BETTER THAN YOU. So play their fucking game and get what other men are too pussified (is that a word) to get. Get laid. Mind fuck every slut you see and then make confident moves toward the bedroom. I trust you can take it from there
And yes, amonojack, I agree with you: preparation and forethought are not to be undervalued.
I see your web site is hosted in Japan. This is the first post I’ve read (you’ve been reddit-ed) and was wondering if it’s true how perverted schoolkids in Japan are becoming. There’s another blog recently reddit-ed, written by a black American teacher currently teaching in Japan. He claims all the 11-13 year-olds he teaches in Japan are extremely open about sex (”show us your cock…please?”) in the classroom, that their favorite game is to clasp their hands together and quickly jam their forefingers into other kids’ (clothed) butts–something the teacher is not immune to, not even from the most innocent of the girls. They ask if black mens’ cocks are really as big as the rumors are. This, in a normal open classroom with lots of kids listening. Could this be true? Looking forward to your answer.
By the way, I got married to someone I thought was WAY out of my league. Gentlemen, heed amanojack’s directions. The speed seduction techniques (have you googled it yet?, why are you still here
work like magic. Yes, I know that sounds like somebody’s making money or whatever. No, no, no. The speed seduction info is totally free–don’t spend a dime on it or any other program. All the info is in the public domain. Hooray for geeky, uncool, unloved, unattractive men! It’s a numbers game. Don’t be a George McFly (”I just don’t think I could take that kind of a rejection.”) Don’t fear rejection and, yes, you’ll get rejected but you’ll also get as much pussy as you want (that’s not a contradiction).
Re: Cas
Yeah, after you’ve already had sex with a girl once, the rules change. And if you’re married the situation is of course way different.
Positive emotions are needed for sex to be good. Anger or other bad feelings cannot be in there or else you won’t stay hard, she won’t be wet, and even if you find away to do it it won’t be very enjoyable.
Dealing with long-term relationship issues is not really my forte. If I’m going to enter into one I will make sure it is built on a solid base from the beginning so that fighting and anger can never occur. But once it’s already happening I’m not the one to ask on how to fix it. Wish I could be of help there.
Re: Niku
In Tokyo it’s quite doable if you live centrally near a station and she doesn’t know where you live. Just have her meet you at your station, stop by a drugstore to get some water, then drop it off at your place.
A more universally applicable one would be choosing to meet at a station where she would have to go past your station to get to her station when she goes home.
Or if she lives alone meet her at her station and stop by the supermarket to pick up spaghetti first.
These are just examples to show what kinds of things are possible - most of the important “logistical” masterminding is down to your own individual situation. There is no limit to the logistical ninjutsu you can pull off when you have experience.
Re: Alex
Your address didn’t come up for some reason. I don’t have my own address on her to protect against SPAM, but if you make a comment on here I’ll see it, or try posting your address again and I’ll message you.
Re: RM
The group that speed seduction jumpstarted is a very good group for all this stuff. Speed Seduction itself is based on NLP and hypnosis, but it’s founder knew the advice I am giving here well.
There is now so much advice floating around - so much good and bad advice - that it’s hard to find what you need. This blog is for getting girls in Japan, so I’ve attempted to show what stuff is most effective in Japan as well as in general, as the game here has subtle but important differences.
As for the pervertedness of Japanese schoolkids, I can personally attest to this. I was a junior high school teacher for three years in Japan and I’ve had both boys *and* girls grab my cock, had girls do an “air-69″ for me to demonstrate the concept, 11-yo girls ask me to eat them out (jokingly I think), gotten the fingers up the ass many times - even once from the school counselor! Even during class, like on my first day, kids were asking me how long my dick was - this was one of the more popular Qs. All he says is totally true.
amano can you send me a mail to
dukeyalex atmmark gmail dott com
do you mind deleting this comment after you do, too? thanks!
Dude I agree with Niku, for someone like me whose recently moved to a very fast paced city like Hong Kong, its almost impossible to find a free girl in the first place.
My eyes have met with a couple of girls at work or at malls, but thats about it… those that I went upto either couldnt understand a word of english or didn’t like foreigners one bit!
Damn!
Need help boys… wheres the big stuff??
Re: Alex
Sent you mail but sorry I don’t know how to delete comments on this site. I don’t administer it I just signed up for a free account here.
Re: Ahmad
I can’t comment on Hong Hong but I can tell you that the majority of the world’s girls are free, and many more could be free if the right guy came along (read: a guy came along with the right approach).
One universal piece of advice is to be persistent. Persistence does NOT make you look like desperate as long as you do it right and don’t give your power away. What it does do is make girls much more likely to get with you, overcoming many barriers. For mostgirls, lack of persistence is seen as lack of interest and/or lack of confidence. Really confident guys are the ones that persist the most. To quote The Clitoris, “Chicks dig confidence.”
Language is not necessary for the essential communication required for pickup. More often than not it gets in the way. Sometimes in Japan I even pretend not to speak any Japanese - this allows me to stay in longer with a higher level of girl, the conversation moves more slowly, and your personal details stay shrouded in an alluring veil of mystery. Plus there is a lot more comedy happening.
The main problem with not speaking the language comes when it’s time to break out the stories. It’s hard to seduce with stories if they can’t understand them, but the fun and wildness of trying to communicate without words is often enough to offset this.
I use language misunderstandings all the time to control logistics, avoid answering questions I don’t want to ask, and to erase things I said that got a negative reaction. If it’s not clear how all this would be possible you need to try it out and see for yourself.
Hi Amanojack - you can delete comments on your blog. If you click on My Blog, then click “CM” next to the post on which you wish you delete comments, the comments will appear, and you can selectively delete the one you want.
Let me know if you need more help with this!
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Ahmad, I think maybe you misunderstood me. I was just saying it’s tough (for me at least) to casually pass by my place, since it’s in a residential area and it’s not really on the way anywhere. But some of the kinda-near stations are kinda on the way somewhere and that’s kinda helped some of the time. Kinda. Logistical issues. Woe is me. Gotta deal with them.
But but but…as our blogmaster said, “the majority of the world’s girls are free.” You just have to (love this ter) grab sack and get in there.
I speak pretty decent Japanese, but lately I’ve been trying to NOT use it for the reasons stated above. Also because I know many guys here who have scores of success and their Japanese is deplorable, infantile, especially in light of how long some of them have been here. But the same arrogance that’s kept them from learning the language is what’s attracting the girls. (”I’m good enough without having to learn your language.”) Going out of your way to make everything understood and to understand everything she’s saying is try-hard behavior and it’s not going to win you any points. I’m a perfectionist and I really don’t like when I’m in the dark as to what’s being said, especially if it’s about me. Also, as a wordsmith and something of a linguist I feel like a dope talking baby talk and using lots of sign language. But you know what…it’s cute. Girls like it. Dropping the whole intellectual facade is a critical first step in chipping away at a girl’s defenses. Girls don’t like know-it-alls (who does?) and don’t need deep conversation to feel very deep attraction. Just have some fun and enjoy yourself.
I like your stuff. I put in my e-mail address, but in case you didn’t get it it’s redpoleq at hotmail.
I want to talk to you more about pick up because your PU style is a bit different from what we’ve been working on.
Check out our website as well. http://www.theosakacrew.com
Hey Amano and others, I’ve been in Japan for roughly 7 months now, im fluent in japanese and ive been just chilling and doing some nanpa here and there. i want to do more since i have more time now and its a good time to start because the jap. college chicks start their 2 month spring break just started. so amano and others who are on here in tokyo gimme an email to discuss/wing up
judoalex@gmail.com
Cool I learnt most of this stuff from MM. Kinda hard to use certain things in Japan cause the girls aren’t always that bright…
Methods. that’s a pretty harsh thing to say. I don’t think it’s a matter of them being smart or stupid, it may just be the fact that you aren’t on the same wave-length as them.
Just because they say things that you might consider stupid in a western situation, doesn’t make them stupid in a duplicate japanese situation.
I have small penis, does pose problem for meeting japanese feline??