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Jun 19 2007

Status Check

Published by Amanojack at 6:23 am under Uncategorized

Hey guys, how’re you all doing? Tried some of my ideas? Noticed any changes? Need some clarification? Mail your stories, questions and comments here:

amanojacktokyo@yahoo.com

21 Responses to “Status Check”

# Anonymouson 19 Jun 2007 at 11:32 am

I’m basically not getting Day 1’s or meeting girls at all.

I’m not doing much approaching in public, and I’m not having luck with internet.

Saw a girl with huge tits I really wanted to talk to on the train:

Excuse: Probably gets guys trying to game her all the time.

Excuse: This freaking train is dead silent and its too embarrassing to try and talk to her.

Excuse: She is listening to headphones, probably wouldn’t even notice me.
# Anonymouson 19 Jun 2007 at 11:36 am

And if I do get meets with girls, they usually go into marriage-prep, ball-clamp mode immediately off the bat.
# Amanojackon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:02 pm

Anonymous,

Big tits: Girls with big tits DO get hit on all the time in Japan, but mostly by Japanese guys.

I’m not so into big-tit chicks, but I’ve gotten a surprising number of them anyway.

Perhaps it’s *because* I’m not into them.

These girls grow up getting played for their tits, so they get really good at detecting when a guy only wants her for her tits. As a gaijin, you have an advantage there because they know girls in your home country have much bigger tits on average so she can think it’s not a big deal for you.

Don’t ever look at her tits. Focus passionately on her eyes whenever you talk, and when you make out, don’t go for the tits too quickly.

Silent train: Try this first. Get up and walk all the way to the end of the train and all the way back to the other end. People walk the train all the time to get in the best position to make a transfer.

Once you’re used to doing that, you can take advantage of these situations by simply standing up and walking around a bit. Then settle near her and start your conversation. Since you are close to her it won’t be loud, but people will still look.

But this is not a big deal. No one’s going to jump out and cut you down with a samurai sword. It’s only scary until you begin the conversation. The moment you begin talking it’s the onlookers who get nervous and you suddenly feel fine. Try it!

Headphones: This is one of the best! You know she has time to kill and is just listening to music or maybe an English program. Make sure your voice is loud and proud enough, and just say something. If on a silent train, look her in the eye and motion for her to take off her headphones. If she is faced away, tap her on the shoulder first.

Why is it actually *better* if they’re wearing headphones?

1) Usually she’s listening to her favorite music, so she’ll be in her private little world enjoying it, and that relaxed state will carry over into your interaction.

2) She will almost always take off the phones to see what you want, because she realizes she isn’t tuned into the outside world and there could be something going on she doesn’t realize. I’ve never had a girl not take off the headphones when I either motioned her to do it or spoke loudly and authoritatively enough for her to know I was insistent on talking to her.

THEN, once she takes her headphones off she has already moved the interaction forward on her own. This sets a precedent - it’s the first rung on a “compliance ladder.” Anyone not know what a compliance ladder is?

3) She is alone and likely planning to be alone for a significant amount of time.

4) One reason she wears the headphones is to probably avoid getting harassed by random big-tit loving dudes, and it works, so less competition for you. Plus if you’re a decent-looking guy SHE DESIRES TO FUCK YOU ALREADY, so go in with confidence.
# Amanojackon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:22 pm

Anonymous,

Marriage-prep, ball clamp mode: She sees your value in your money, your career, your kindness, your good looks, your height, your romantic character, etc. This is BAD.

She should want you for the sex and ONLY for the sex. Stop giving her other reasons to be interested.

Step 1: Get her horny

Step 2: Fuck her.

Then you get to control where the relationship goes. It’s easy to make a sex friend into a girlfriend or a wife later on if you choose.

Anyone who doesn’t get this (or any) concept, please *respond* so I can clarify more.

I don’t care if you state it as an objection, as a question, as a counterargument, as a “I tried that and it doesn’t work” complaint, as an “I just don’t get it,” as an “it doesn’t jive with my experience” or whatever. I’ll show you WHY it is correct or why it hasn’t worked for you yet, and how to make it work.
# Tamsenon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:24 pm

For Anonymous: check out this link for why the above is true.

http://amanojack.your-japan.com/post/22/224
# Gaithersburgon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:27 pm

Hot women don’t get horny so easily, so I don’t think this can work on them.
# Amanojackon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:33 pm

Hot women get plenty horny! Some of them just have an agenda of earning $$$ or something, so they suppress their horniness for as long as they can to get what they’re after, but all normal women have strong sexual desire. This is a basic human genetic trait.

Some people get confused because their wife or girlfriend doesn’t give them sex all the time. That just means she is not horny for YOU, because she already had you a whole bunch. It’s irrelevant for seducing new girls.
# FF7Rokzon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:50 pm

I just want a girlfriend who loves anime and games. How can I get one?
# Amanojackon 19 Jun 2007 at 2:59 pm

FF7Rokz,

You can get those girls on the Internet. Try http://www.japan-guide.com in the pen friends section. Also, if you want a girlfriend, don’t ask to be her girlfriend. Treat her like a very good sex friend and wait for her to ask, “What are we? What’s our relationship?” It may come soon or it may come much later, but when it comes that is the time that she will be your girlfriend. Doing it this way will ensure you have an extremely strong bond and she can’t be seduced away by another guy. Don’t ever do the “kokuhaku” confession of love bullshit.
# Alexon 19 Jun 2007 at 8:49 pm

How’d you handle it if/when a hot japanese girl tells you she hates playboys ?
# Alexon 19 Jun 2007 at 8:52 pm

But she isn’t being overly hostile, just kind of *sending a message*
# Amanojackon 19 Jun 2007 at 9:05 pm

Alex,

“I hate playboys” means

1) She is looking for a boyfriend

2) You may have to have higher closing skills to bed her without agreeing to be her boyfriend.

I just ignore any mention of playboys. If she presses I just look her in the eyes and casually but firmly say, “No.” More important is setting up your interaction so that she doesn’t have the leeway or feel comfortable asking these questions in the first place.

All in all, it’s a good sign she’s very interested, but I’d recommend as always to dial down the romance before you fuck. After that, choose what you want to do.

By the way, a playboy (player) is a guy who tricks chicks into thinking they’re exclusive. I don’t do that, nor should you, so you can feel confident saying, “No.”
# Alexon 20 Jun 2007 at 5:36 am

Thanks AmanoJack,

I’ll be workin’ on improving the *closing without automatically becoming her bf* skill
# Anonymouson 20 Jun 2007 at 10:17 am

Got my balls busted all last night about the cheating issue.

What do you do about those types that call you at all hours, show up at your house, snoop around your keitai…and are pretty much determined to root out exactly who you are sleeping around with?

I’ve already tried to dodge the issue, but it seems like SHE is forcing the ultimatum.
# Anonymouson 20 Jun 2007 at 10:20 am

She is just constantly at it with

“why don’t you answer my calls?”

“are you having sex with other girls?”

“who is it?”

“why dont you put our purikura pictures on your phone?”

Before this, I have always dodged the issue, and tried to keep her from bringing it up, but it seems unavoidable now.

I think the only option at this point is just to go to her and say

“yeah, your not the only girl I’m having sex with right now. Are you fine with that, or do you want to leave? Its your choice.”
# The dudeon 20 Jun 2007 at 10:41 am

Recently, I’ve been trying something when meeting girls for drinks or whatever. I recommend a game where the looser of jan-ken (rock, paper, scissors) has to answer a question from the winner, and any question is OK. Favorite position, first times, love hotel visits and assorted other questions.

I figure that this is a good way to open them up, but I also fear that some of the questions (about first times or boy friends) could intimidate them or elicit negative emotions (like a crappy ex-boyfriend or something). I justify it by saying that it helps to bring their sexual side out. I also do this to cover up my lacking seduction/conversation skills.

It’s a friendly enough game and they often get excited about it, but I wonder if I’m doing any good with it. I feel it’s a good tool, but with the wrong questions, it could turn bad.

This has never really worked for me (but I’ve only tried it twice). Do you think this could be a valuable seduction tool if well harnessed, or should I chuck this conversation maker out for something else? If it’s the latter, what sort of conversation ‘activity’ should I swap this out with.
# Anonymouson 20 Jun 2007 at 5:23 pm

>>21

Serious response to a sarcastic question:

Your job:

Being an ALT will not be a hindrance to getting laid. The only thing that having a better job/more money will get you is gold diggers and girls who are more interested in marriage rather than fucking.

The mindset that career/financial status has an effect on how much you can laid is equivalent to an AFC, supplication mindset.

There are rich guys the world over who have no idea how to deal with girls and the only thing they are getting is suckered by gold diggers.

Being an ALT earns you a decent, livable income for a young guy, and gives you lots of free time to spend with girls.

Personality:
You should work on improving your personality. This is called “working on inner game” within PUA circles, and is one of the most fundamental concepts of all PUA.

Pimples:
Girls are more concerned with personality over looks, when it comes to guys, so you shouldn’t think your physical appearance is going to be a huge drawback. However, you should work to keep your hygiene, health, and dress as best as it can be. This will give you self confidence, and this confidence will make you more attractive.
# Amanojackon 20 Jun 2007 at 9:07 pm

Re: “yeah, your not the only girl I’m having sex with right now. Are you fine with that, or do you want to leave? Its your choice.”

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If she’s still seeing you, you have the option of just telling her you’re busy and seeing her a bit less. Tell her you just got promoted and it’s so exciting and what not, or you’ve been assigned a big project or more hours at work or something. But be *excited* about it and excited to tell her, so she can’t write it off as an excuse. If it were an excuse you’d be like, “Uh, yeah…uh, I’m busy at work…and…and stuff…” But if you are overjoyed telling her you got a promotion of something, she will not reject it and you’ll always have an excuse for not meeting her, etc. In Japan, being busy is king. Everyone tries to look busier than they really are.
# Amanojackon 20 Jun 2007 at 9:20 pm

The Dude,

Your sexual questions game is nice! I like this kind of approach, because even though you’ll lose a lot of girls from it, you’ll also get a lot of girl from it, once you perfect it. And it cuts to the chase.

IMPORTANT POINT about pickup in general: You want to run your pickup lifestyle like a business of sorts. Not be businesslike with the girls, no way! But run the approach and follow-through in a highly systematic way. Don’t bother perfecting something unless you plan to use it the same way all the time.

Mastering the fastest seduction methods will allow you many more tries to get it right, because whether you fail or succeed you’re done quickly. It’s better to do a method that works to get 1% of girls you talk to into your bed but takes 2 minutes of your time than than one that gets 30% of the girls but takes 2 hours of your time. In fact, it’s TWICE as good! Cut to the chase with the sexual stuff - this is efficient.

Another application of fast sex talk is to make cheap sexual jokes, then say, “Just kidding” after each one. Sounds strange, but some guys have had great success with it. They’ll say stupid things like, “I have to have an operation…” “Mine’s too big.”

Not funny? Not a good joke? Absolutely not good. BUT, in a charged social situation it is shocking, so people will laugh. You must say “Just kidding” before she finishes laughing. Then just keep repeating it until she gets horny, then isolate and fuck. Strangest method around!

For your sex questions game, you can develop it more by using the Q&A to go into some stories about your experiences to increase the heat. Don’t talk about her exes!
# The dudeon 21 Jun 2007 at 1:10 pm

I was wondering if you had any useful guides or sharable experience trying to get hostesses. Out here in inaka, the only surefire way to meet girls is to go to these places. Unfortunately, these girls have their defenses up all the time.

Do you have any advice for breaking down the hostess’ defenses and getting her in bed.
# Amanojackon 21 Jun 2007 at 6:29 pm

I have no experience with that area so can’t really comment. Try Juice’s site:

http://j4jgirls.blogspot.com/

I’ve been with a few hostesses that I met outside their work, though, and one thing they tell me is that it’s fairly common to hook up with the customers.